Prenuptial shoot on a bride’s point of view
I think everyone’s caught up in the idea that brides love to do a Prenuptial Photo shoot. Like you know, who’s absolutely into every details and knows exactly what she wants. People seldom think that there are brides out there who’s naturally not into this kind of thing. Those naturally kill joy bride includes me. But hey, I’m not going to share my bitter opinion about our experience. In fact, this pessimist side of mine changed when we did this shoot few days ago. It’s actually a different and once in a lifetime experience.
I wrote this because I thought that sharing this would help someone who’s really troubled in doing an obligatory shoot like this. I know and I feel you. I’ve experienced it too but relax and just enjoy the ride!
To all the bride and soon to be bride out there, here’s something you might want to read when you’re planning to do a mushy compulsory engagement shoot.
First, I’d like to say, don’t stress yourself too much in thinking of pleasing everyone with your pictures. You cannot please everyone. Everyone has a different perspective. As cliché as it may sound, beauty is in the eye of the beholder. It’s actually applicable in almost everything. What’s actually good in the other may not be as good as what you think and as how you perceived it. Don’t be caught in the wrong mindset like a bride who wants to make everything perfect because she’s afraid of negative criticism. It’s never gonna work that way. Believe me, you’ll definitely not gonna enjoy it either. After all, everyone’s entitled for their opinion.
I was once reminded by my fiance when he told me that it’s not right because we’re not enjoying the preparation anymore. A simple conversation always turned into a misunderstanding and turned into a silly love quarrel. There is something wrong when you’re not enjoying it anymore.
Ladies, relax! If you can’t, then stop what you are doing when you’re too stress to think and decide. You won’t be able to come up with a better idea anyway. So gather as many patience as you can and follow your heart.
When you’re in a good condition, discuss what you have in mind with your partner. Well, actually a prayer before you start anything is a big big big help. Communication is the key to every relationship. Your partner cannot guess what you want and even what’s in your mind. At this stage, try to at least practice communicating because without it, you won’t survive in the next chapter. I remember when someone told me that engagement season is a venue for couples to have a glimpse of what to expect in the next season. If you can’t handle this stage, you won’t be able to carry on to the next season.
I look so expert in this field but honestly, these were the lessons that I’ve learned in this past few days. Ironic how a cheesy engagement shoot planning turned into a misunderstanding then eventually turned into something amazing. The only difference most of the is our attitude in handling these things. Have a right perspective and you’ll definitely enjoy life.
Here’s some tips that I’ve learned during the shoot:
First, think of a theme. Choosing the theme is like setting your goal. It will help you ease the pain. Remember, life without goals is like a race with no finish line; you’re just running nowhere. Once you decide on this, everything will comes smoothly. To be honest, I don’t know exactly what I want to achieve. Haha! I just want a travel-themed shoot but I think everyone’s into that already. When I think this idea is good, I’ll find another theme and think that’s good also. Everything I saw is good and then I couldn’t decide anymore. Haha!
When choosing a theme, make sure you are comfortable in doing this. Also, make sure you can do it. Here’s a list of theme that you might want to consider that I myself considered in our shoot:
Movie themed shoot like UP Movie, The Notebook. If you’re adventurous, you may want to consider under water or hot air balloon shoot. If you love the season, you can do a four season shoot: winter, spring, summer and autumn. (Honestly, I prefer the four seasons.) You may opt to go to either one of these: vintage, whimsical, eclectic, rustic, romantic, modern and such. Just be creative girls! After all, the goal is to have fun!
Choose the venue wisely. Deciding the theme will help you choose the venue easily. In our case, we choose The Greenery, Bulacan. I actually saw it in my sister’s make up page. It’s a good thing that my sister is a makeup artist. An ocular visit would definitely help you big time. What’s good in the internet sometimes are not good in reality. The Greenery is a good place but it would be really nice if they would preserve the place more. I actually love it except our room.
It took us almost three hours to go to Greenery. We checked in the day before our shoot. You don’t need to do the same thing as we did. It’s just that if we don’t checked in the day before, we need to leave Laguna at 2 in the morning or we can leave at 7 in the morning and have our shoot at 1-5pm. No one wants to shoot under the heat of the sun, of course. It’s a good decision that we checked in before because if not, we will be exhausted doing everything in one day. Worst is, we’ll have to travel again for three hours after a very tiring shoot. I might collapse due to exhaustion. Haha!
We actually didn’t expect that there is a barn inside the Greenery but we love it! Here’s one of our favorite shot from the awesome Redfox Photography. <3
In choosing the venue, you always need to consider the weather especially when you’re doing an outdoor shoot. We considered an indoor shoot at Heima but we realized we’ll be limited in posing, style and everything. Also you have to consider the prenup fee for the venue. There’s no more free in this world. :D
Pick your clothes properly. This is probably the hardest thing to do. We allotted time, money and effort in choosing the right kind of clothes for the shoot. We bought one pair each and realized that it’s really expensive to buy clothes that we’ll wear only once in our life. I’m not gonna wear something that I wore in our creative shot, that’s what I think. Good thing, my sister knows something in the fashion industry. She recommended Keith Angelo as our stylist. We actually didn’t expect anything but she’s the best! We had no idea what kind of clothes we are going to wear but the clothes matched the place and the makeup. It felt as if everything was carefully planned.
Don’t spend too much in your clothes especially if you’re going to wear it only once. You may borrow from your friends or re-arranged your closet. You’ll absolutely find something in there!
In our case, we prepared only one formal set (the navy blue dress). Other creative style were provided by our stylist.
Want to know more about our stylist? Please like his Facebook page Styling by Keith Angelo: https://www.facebook.com/pages/Styling-by-KeithAngelo/262586057103066 )
Choose the right Photographer. Photography is the cornerstone of your wedding memories. Choosing the right wedding photographer is one of the most important decisions you’ll make when planning your wedding. Of course, every detailed preparation is nothing when you don’t get a good photographer who will make capture every moments in a lens. If your prenuptial or wedding photos don’t turn out well, you will regret it. We’re glad we collaborated with the awesome Sir Derek of Redfox Photography who became our family wedding photographer. He also took Pau’s brother wedding as well as my brother’s wedding.
A good relationship with the photographer makes you feel relaxed in posing and following instructions. We’re not models, in fact, we prefer it if we are the one behind the camera but with Sir Derek’s help, we looked effortlessly good in his picture. A little cooperation will help a lot. Also, if they saw you enjoying the shoot, they would also enjoy taking pictures of you as well.
Wanna see more of Redfox Photography’s awesome work? Please check his site here: http://redfoxphotography.com.ph/ or like his Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/RedfoxPhotographyPhilippines?fref=photo)
Choose the right Makeup and hair stylist. I’m blessed I have a sister who can make me beautiful for free! The perks is she knows also what I want and the best look and style for me. She actually arranged the team for my wedding. Gooooooood thing! Because I really don’t know how this things work.
Don’t have our picture together but she’s wearing pink dress in the picture.
I love it how I don’t need to explain to her what I want to achieve. She’s my sister so she knows all my flaws even without saying it. The best thing behind the beautiful make up is free! Oh, her boyfriend and her designed our invitation. We’re actually excited to send those soon.
(Please check her site here: www.julieprofugo.com or like her Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/makeupandportraitsbyjulieprofugo )
She’s currently working on her new site so please stay tuned for updates. I’m sure it’s gonna be awesome!
Be mindful of the time every time! We are very particular at time. When we said we’ll start at 8 am, we’ll start at 8. When you value your time, you also respect the people around you. We planned to shoot for 5 hours only. Thank God, we finished on time!
Enjoy it! It’s a once in a lifetime experience! Don’t be a kill joy. We only live once. Few couples don’t experience this kind of thing nowadays. We’re actually blessed to have this opportunity to treasure each moment as we gradually move to the next season not with a fast forward button, but just the right timing, place and pacing. Thank God for this opportunity!
Collaborating with the right team is the best! I never thought we would enjoyed it despite the heat. I swear, it’s really hot. I remember I texted my mom to pray for the good weather because it was raining the day before we get there and the Lord answered our prayer.
I’d like to give a shout out to everyone who helped us on that day. To Sir Derek of Redfox Photography, to Keith Angelo, to my MUAH sister Julie, my best friend Mel and Jerico. Pau and I are really grateful. Thank you!
Counting the days. It’s cute how the people around us have wedding jitters already and we’re still calm and okay. Hihi!